1- Introduction: Codependency
Codependency is a learned behavior that can be passed down from one generation to another. It is a condition rooted in low self-esteem that impinges on an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually equal and satisfying relationship. Codependency is also known as “relationship addiction” because those affected often form or maintain relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and or abusive. Although this disorder was first used to describe interpersonal relationships in families of alcoholics, it applies to anyone who has become affected as a result of being raised in a dysfunctional or abusive family. This section provides an overview of this form of behavioral addiction as a way to raise your awareness and help you determine whether you are affected by codependency.
The Codependency section is divided into the following:
The term codependency is applied to unhealthy relationship with self and others. Although originally used to describe the destructive relationship someone might have with an alcoholic in the family, the definition of codependency has broadened as research has found that anyone raised in a dysfunctional or addicted families is likely to develop codependency. This article provides an overview of codependency to raise your awareness about this growing and prevalent form of behavior addiction.
The term codependency is used to describe unhealthy or dysfunctional relationships with others. Although originally used to describe the destructive relationship someone might have with an addict or alcoholic in the family, the definition of codependency has broadened as research has found that anyone raised in a dysfunctional family or with ill parenting is likely to exhibit codependent traits. This article provides an overview of codependency to raise your awareness about this growing and prevalent form of behavior addiction.
People who have been raised in addicted or dysfunctional families tend to hold certain beliefs that act to the detriment of their value and worth as human beings. This article describes some of the distorted thought patterns common amongst codependents.
Codependency involves a dysfunctional system of thinking, feeling, and behaving toward others and ourselves that cause misery and confusion. Most of us live like children, relying on our relationships for fulfillment and happiness, instead of taking responsibility for our lives as adults. This article describes some of the personality traits that contribute toward our codependent way of life.
People suffering from codependency have lost touch with their core self because they rely on their relationships for their sense of identity, worth and value. This article describes some of the effects and consequences this behavior addiction has on our lives.
Those who grow up in addicted, abusive or dysfunctional families assume unhealthy roles to help them survive childhood. Although these roles helped protect them as children, they become the traits that lead into unhealthy relationships and codependency in adulthood. To be sure, adopting different roles is common among people everywhere and is a necessary part of negotiating our way through life. But codependents inhabit these roles to such extremes that they lose their own identity and self worth in the process. This section describes the most common roles we adopt as codependents, roles that rob us of our authenticity as human beings and prevent us from having mutually satisfying relationships.
Codependents have difficulty recognizing where they end and where the other person begins. They tend to become totally enmeshed in the lives of those around us, taking responsibility over their affaires and problems. Codependents are addicted, not to a substance, but to a destructive pattern of relating to other people. Typically, these dysfunctional relationship patterns can be traced back to how they were treated as children, which they continue to model as adults. This article defines what boundaries are and explains the defense mechanisms codependents use in putting up with abusive behavior, instead of setting healthy limits on their relationships.
Boundaries define who we are. They set limits against unacceptable behavior and make clear our role and responsibilities in relationships. Maintaining healthy boundaries in our relationships helps increase our value and self respect. This article provides some suggestions on how to set boundaries so that as codependents we can start our journey into recovery whilst enjoying relationships that are equal and mutually satisfactory.
Recovery from codependency begins with acceptance of our condition, taking responsibility for the wellbeing of our lives, and behaving in ways that promote our self-esteem. These are the guiding principles of our journey towards a new way of life filled with self-integrity and fulfillment.
It takes time to recover from codependency. A lifelong pattern of behaviors though self-defeating has become our default way of living and we cannot change overnight. As with any type of addiction, recovery calls for a radical change in our attitude and learning new tools to cope with life in healthy and functional ways. This article provides suggestions on how to start your journey towards freedom from codependency.
One of the most effective – and proven — ways to recover from codependency is to work the 12 Steps of the Fellowship of Codependents Anonymous. The Steps not only provide the principles and the tools to recover from codependency, they are guidelines to living an authentic life on a daily basis. This article provides an overview of these 12 Steps, with particular emphasis on Steps 1 and 2. This information will familiarize you with the nature of your problem and how to recover from it.
As with any other type of addiction, recovery from codependency requires vigilance and a willingness to practice a new set of principles and behaviors on a daily basis. This article provides reminders and practical suggestions that have proven effective in helping maintain recovery from codependency.