Pros and cons of 12 step groups
3- Pros and cons of 12 step groups
This page describes the Pros and cons of 12 step groups. The information can also be beneficial for potential group participants to help with their decision to join such a group.
- Pros of a 12 Step group
- Cons of a 12 Step group
- Considerations for group participants
Pros of a 12 Step group
1. Effective alternative
Addicts in recovery need to learn and work the 12 Steps in order to recover. They need the Steps to avoid slipping back into the grip of their addiction, and to learn for the first time about a new way of living more rewarding than anything they have ever known. These are facts. Whereas most members of Fellowships work the Steps in a one-to-one relationship with a sponsor, a 12 Step group can be an effective alternative way to be guided through them. Such a group can be the answer for those of us who are desperate to learn how to work the program, but who have been unable to find a sponsor. Finding a sponsor can be especially difficult and frustrating for those of us who live in a foreign country, who due to language barrier may not have the same access or choice of sponsors.
2. Systematic approach
A 12 Step group is an organized and structured set up that gives you peace of mind. You will study and work through your 12 Steps week by week in a systematic fashion – and are guaranteed to complete them by a certain time. Of course, working the Steps is never completed but something we need to practise on a daily basis. Yet a group provides you with the opportunity to gain a basic knowledge of the 12 Steps and how their practice can provide you with the tools to live free from addiction – a day at a time.
3. Time framed
When working your Steps with a sponsor, you usually have the luxury of working the Steps at your own pace. On the one hand this is fine, but on the other hand, it can lead to your procrastinating. On occasion, the sponsor and sponsee never get around to finishing their study of the Steps, and this of course means you will loose the opportunity to experience the full benefits of the program. But in a 12 Step group setting, with a predetermined timeframe for advancing through the Steps, you are denied this “luxury”, of working at your own pace. Here against a structured schedule and alongside your fellow group members you will have the encouragement and motivation to work and complete your 12 Steps.
4. Solution focused
A 12 Step Study Group is focused on the solution. Whereas Fellowship meetings are an indispensable source of support, places we go to find identification and share about our experiences; the objective of a Step Study Group is purely to study and work the 12 Steps in a structured way, with the guidance of facilitators.
5. Group unity
A great feature of a 12 Step group is that you will be with likeminded people, who share the same addiction and who have the same determination to work their 12 Steps. Here you will all be focused purely on achieving this objective whilst also benefitting from different views, interpretations and experiences of how each works their Steps.
6. Team support
A 12 Step group is based on teamwork. As a group you are united in your goal to work the 12 Steps and dependant on one another to complete them. Here you will not feel overwhelmed or confused at your efforts to work the Steps alone. But you will have each other’s support and encouragement to push thorough even the Steps that you may find most difficult. Note that in a 12 Step group you are encourage to buddy up with another group member, so you are certain to have at least one other participant with whom you will connect in a meaningful way.
7. Recovery tools
The ultimate advantage of participating in a 12 Step group is that you are guaranteed to work and complete your 12 Steps within a specific time frame. Then you will be able to apply the tools provided by the 12 Steps to live a new way of life free from addiction. These are the tools whose principles when applied will help you overcome any of life’s difficulties, to live in peace and serenity.
Cons of a 12 Step group
1. Unorthodox sponsorship
A 12 Step group is not the same as working your Steps with a sponsor. With sponsorship you enter into a relationship where you benefit from personal support and guidance throughout your recovery. A 12 Step group on the other hand is more like a classroom where you study and complete your 12 Steps within a time period. Here you are bound by rules and criteria’s and are expected to work as part of a team. Although Step Study Groups are not ideal nor the traditional way to work your 12 Steps, if the alternative is not to work them and remain ignorant of the 12 Step program, then they can be an effective way forward towards the solution.
2. Classroom setting
You are in a group setting and must comply with its rules and schedule of working through the 12 Steps or risk being asked to leave the group. Usually when working your Steps with a sponsor, you have more time to process, ask questions and experience how each Step works in your life before you move on to the next one. But in a 12 Step group you are theoretically taught about a Step in a formal way over the course of a session or two – and then move on to the next Step. It is then up to you to apply and experience how the Steps work in your life. In addition being part of a team you have to keep up with the speed and progress of the 12 Step group schedule.
Considerations for group participants
In helping your potential group participants decide whether they can commit to working their 12 Steps in your group, you may want to ask them to consider the following questions. Answering these will help them understand the criteria’s and commitment involved in joining your 12 Step group. You may also want to provide copies of this document to them during your Initiation meetings for their consideration.
1) Establish your motive for wanting to work your 12 Steps in a Step Study Group setting. Is your goal purely to study and work your 12 Steps or do you have other intentions, such as using it as a forum for social purposes?
2) Is recovery your number one priority or are you preoccupied with other issues in your life? A 12 Step Study takes a lot of focus and a lot of effort. It’s a big commitment. For instance, if you are planning to move, or are going through a divorce, or your job is in a busy period, this may not be the best time to join a Step Study. Simply put, you must be able to answer yes to the questions:
- Can you commit to its workload and time schedule?
- Does your life today allow you to commit to the 28 weeks that a typical 12 Step group lasts?
3) Will you be able to work as part of a team? That means joining a 12 Step group in a spirit of unity and camaraderie and working progressively alongside others. Can you be respectful of other group members journey through the Steps and not be judgmental or argumentative?
4) Can you adhere to the criteria and rules of the 12 Step group and treat it like a classroom. This means not coming in with your own fixed ideas about how and when to work your Steps. Remember that It will be the facilitators who will be teaching you and that you have to comply with their suggestions and instructions.
5) Are you willing and open minded to put in the work suggested to you by the facilitators, even if you may not want to or disagree with them? This includes doing the homework, readings, etc. that the facilitators ask you to complete within a specific time period.
6) Can you abide with the limitations of a 12 Step group? Remember they do not offer the same attributes of sponsorship. Facilitators cannot act as personal sponsors nor are they 12 Step gurus but merely addicts in recovery passing on their personal working knowledge and experience of the 12 Steps.